The first step is changing the way we talk about the issue. You shouldn’t tell your parents, “It’s time to give up the keys” or talk about “taking” the keys away. Instead, use the phrase “hanging up the keys.” It’s a subtle difference, but “hanging up” makes it their choice; “taking away” makes it someone else’s. The best way to gauge their competency is to ride with them. Other clues include if your parents often talk about “close calls” or getting lost, or if you notice dents or dings on their car.

AARP’s 10 Major Warning Signs

Almost getting into accidents, with frequent “close calls.”

Finding dents and scrapes on the car, or on your parents’ property, such as fences, mailboxes, garage doors, curbs, etc.

Getting lost.

Difficulty seeing or following traffic signals, road signs and pavement markings.

Delayed response time to unexpected situations on the road, difficulty moving their feet from the gas pedal to the brake pedal or confusing the two.

Misjudging gaps in traffic at intersections and on highway entrance and exit ramps.

Experiencing road rage or having other drivers frequently honk at them.

Easily becoming distracted or having difficulty concentrating while driving.

Difficulty turning around to check over their shoulder while backing up or changing lanes.

Receiving multiple traffic tickets or “warnings” from traffic or law enforcement officers.